I fall on both sides of the peas and mashed potatoes fence. I don’t always like to hear the truth from others, and I often have a hard time being honest with people even when I know I need to. Being frank with someone or accepting the truth from a friend or family member is not easy. I have told friends the truth when I thought it was important, and sometimes the appreciated it, and sometimes they didn’t. I think the key is to give and accept truth in love. It doesn’t do anyone any good when we tell them the truth unless our motives are correct. Do we want someone to eat their peas because it is good for them, or because it makes us feel better about our own lives? Ouch.

Sometimes our desire to please prohibits us from being a true friend. Because a true friend would want honesty and an ability to trust one another. True friends care about one another and want to help in difficult times and help a person overcome any problems that may need solving. But too often when people try to tell us the hard truth in an effort to help us we reject that truth and sometimes even consider that person not a friend. When in fact they are doing what a true friend should do. I think that this can lead to us avoiding people that are trying to be true friends. I also think it can lead to relationships with people that are not healthy and maybe even don’t have your best interests at heart. Because if they aren’t willing to be truthful when you need it...do they really care about your well being?